"What, extra time to spend on myself? Are you crazy? That doesn't exist in my world!"
Why is it, that when it comes to bettering ourselves, we always 'put it off'? We can easily see where other people are going wrong.
("I know exactly what you need to do...")
We see the changes they need to make.
("He's not worthy of you, you should 'dump him'. You'll be much better off without him.")
We also see how to fix their problems.
("You need to eat healthier, start exercising and stop drinking so much.")
But when it comes to ourselves, we simply 'bury our heads in the sand' or make excuses,
(I'm too busy right now.)
(I'll start it next week.)
(How will I have time to add another thing to my ever-expanding daily 'to do' list?)
(What, extra time to spend on myself? Are you crazy? That doesn't exist in my world!)
We have every reason to feel this way. Sometimes it's as if our lives are spinning out of control, like we don't even have a minute to catch our breath. For me, there are never enough hours in a day and the thought of putting my feet up for an evening of Netflix is like a dream that could never come true.
The thing is, we can ALWAYS make more time. Weirdly, over the years, I've found that the busier I am, the more I get done. Perhaps it's because when we're really busy, we're in 'fast mode' and on days when we don't have a lot to do, our pace is much slower so we get less accomplished.
I'm a big believer in being the best you can be. We can ALWAYS be bettering ourselves. In my mind, I think it's a bit arrogant and lazy to just sit back and think,
"...this is me, it's just how I am, I'm not going to change."
To go through life without EVOLVING, GROWING or MOVING FORWARD in some way, really kills the spirit and makes us feel empty inside. Yes, some of us have had a terrible struggle through life and we might feel like giving up on our dreams but it's our job to turn the upset, anger or frustration into something positive. Only we have the power to make positive change in our lives. Like anything, the more you put into bettering yourself, the more you'll get out of it.
Although we may feel like now is not the right time to make changes, there never really is the 'perfect time' so as the saying goes, "Now is as good a time as any."
What I'm saying is, instead of wasting precious time thinking, "How could I even find the time?" or, "I've got too much on my plate right now." , ask yourself this,
"What is possible?"
"Where could I squeeze in a bit more time?"
"I really want this, what do I need to do to make it happen?
You will see that ANYTHING is achievable and a whole world of opportunity will open up for you.
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Here are some explanations of the expressions I've used in this blog post:
'put it off' = (postpone; decide to do something at a later time)
'dump him' (someone) = (to end a romantic relationship with someone)
'to be better off without him' (someone) = (to be in a better situation without someone)
'bury our heads in the sand' = (ignoring; refuse to confront, acknowledge or deal with a problem)
'I've got too much on my plate' = (to have too many things to worry about or deal with)